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The Sad Truth Behind Robin William’s Suicide

It still saddens me to hear about the sad, sad loss of a much loved actor, Robin Williams. Robin contributed much effort and passion towards acting, Mrs. Doubtfire is a perfect example to show that, he brought comedy and showed us how to appreciate family much more in this show. It really shocked me and many others I am sure, that Robin had been fighting depression for many years and it wasn’t until his suicide, that this was really made public knowledge. Of course, sometimes, not going public with an illness is for the best, but I wish he had got the help and support he may have so badly needed. I am not saying that his family were not supportive, I imagine they were terrific, but maybe if he got access to counselling much quicker, he may still be around today? Depression is such a hard topic to understand, I have depression and some people understand and appreciate the challenges it can contribute in my life, whereas others don’t care for it and in turn, don’t bother with me. I guess that’s their problem, rather than mine. You see, everyone with depression has different effects, some may be sad and have trouble socialising, whereas others may act that they are happy but deep down, they are not; they are hurting badly.


Robin Williams takes on the role of the legend, Mrs.Doubtfire

Challenges that depression contribute make it ever so hard to deal with the world. People can seem like problems, depression can affect a way a person trusts and socialises, because they would rather be alone and have their own company than others. So when I read that Robin Williams was being slated by certain press, I was disgusted and shocked at their little understanding and knowledge of depression and Mental Health as a whole. The Sun’s coverage of Robin’s suicide was horrific, where was the respect in that? They certainly did not show compassion or support to his thousands of fans or to Robin for battling an illness for many years secretly. How is this supporting those with depression and thinking about suicide? We are being branded by press unfairly and Robin’s memory certainly doesn’t deserve to be treated like this. Illnesses affect many of us, some of us have disabilities, some have short-term to long-term illnesses and some of us have mental health for our lives, so why criticise and devalue anyone with an illness? They shouldn’t be allowed to do this, tougher regulations are needed to stop the press being so cold.

I found this interesting piece, with also shows why what the press did was distressing and wrong.

Robin Williams’ death was a tragedy that saddened millions including myself. The fact that he committed suicide adds poignancy to the loss suffered by his family and his viewers and fans. The flagging up by the media of his perceived problems including depression, past addictions and present money issues could conceivably be helpful if they led to a discussion of how such issues – common to a much wider community than only the rich and famous – might be overcome. This would be reporting news, but with a social purpose also in mind, and newspapers exercising some social responsibility.

However, the details of how he carried out his suicide reported in a lurid manner – sometimes in bulletpoint headlines – by papers such as the Sun, the Mirror, and the Mail are of no positive benefit to anyone. They also run the risk of bringing about copycat actions by individuals who perhaps may feel seriously depressed or have mental health issues. At worst this might bring them to act in a similar way in the belief that this could bring about a personal association with their former on-screen hero.

The disappointing fact is that there do exist very clear guidelines produced by the National Union of Journalists (NUJ), and even by the Press Complaints Commission (PCC) which outline acceptable ways of covering suicide in the press. According to the NUJ: “Reporting suicide carries a responsibility for writers and editors in regard to the most vulnerable and exposed members of society. It is essential to understand the serious implications that the language we use can have on those affected.” The PCC says: “When reporting suicide, care should be taken to avoid excessive detail about the method used.” The PCC even goes on to state that exceptions should be made only if it can be shown that matters of overriding ‘public interest’ are at stake.

Depression affects many of us during different stages in our lives, be it childhood -adulthood, often depression doesn’t just go away and many people who contact me through my website, have experience depression for years and it isn’t as simple as “just going away” like some many say. This lack of understanding should be fixed, the understanding is needed, schools should teach about Mental Health, people should bother to understand it more, it isn’t our way of living, it’s an illness and one so many of us have to live with.

The facts and figures around Mental Health in the UK are alarming.

• 1 in 4 people will experience some kind of mental health problem in the course of a year
• Mixed anxiety and depression is the most common mental disorder in Britain
• Women are more likely to have been treated for a mental health problem than men
• About 10% of children have a mental health problem at any one time
• Depression affects 1 in 5 older people
• Suicides rates show that British men are three times as likely to die by suicide than British women
• Self-harm statistics for the UK show one of the highest rates in Europe: 400 per 100,000 population
• Only 1 in 10 prisoners has no mental disorder

I for one will miss Robin Williams, what he contributed towards our televisions and our lives was great, how many people can say they made a difference? He certainly did and it was just sad that the only way out he saw was suicide, may he Rest in Peace and be remembered for what he did, rather than what his sad suicide.




Ever Had A Bad Day?



Ever felt like you have had a bad day? I am sure you have had more than one, maybe you had a head-ache or perhaps a sickness bug? Well imagine if throughout your day/week or however long you had it, you were constantly told “just to get better or get over it” …can’t imagine that saying being supportive or understanding? Well imagine how that sounds to a person suffering from Mental Health, be it depression, anxiety, bipolar, eating disorders or OCD. The message here is simple, do not try and assume to know somebody else’s circumstances or situation, you may believe they appear fine on the outside, which they may do, however on the inside they could be full of hurt, anger or loneliness which isn’t always made obvious or shown.

Many times, I have seen a big stigma against Mental Health sufferers, sometimes it is so bad I wonder how these people even dare to post what they do. Just getting better isn’t as easy as it sounds for those with Mental Health, it can be challenging and harder for some than others. Some may have a bad few days, some a few weeks whereas others may display and experience different symptoms, such as: isolation, withdrawal, negative thinking, unsociable, loss of appetite, self-harm, loss of hobbies and many other symptoms and these can last a lifetime; not every person who suffers from a Mental Health condition gets 100% better, it is very true that the illness can last a life-time, this is why not judging but instead trying to understand is better.

Witnessing the stigma around Mental Health isn’t easy, you get great people who help support Mental Health and encourage awareness and understanding and then you get those who bully, mock and try to victimize the people suffering from the illnesses, why does this happen? It certainly is not needed and often makes it a lot worse. Interestingly despite 1 in 4 of us suffering from depression or another Mental Health condition during our lifetimes, there is still a big worry about people being open about their illness, they fear that their friends will not be their friends any-more or that they will be laughed and joked about in their working/social life. Sometimes it is easier not to say anything, but then not saying anything can be worse as any possible understanding of the illness will not be around, that’s if there was any to begin with. And why shouldn’t Mental Health be openly discussed? It is nothing to be ashamed about, it should be understood. Surely the shame of Mental Health, should be the stigma around it? That is the real problem and the real reason why many with it feel they cannot speak up and get help, they feel alone and it should not be like that.

After building my website, beatdepressiontogether.webeden.co.uk back in 2012, I decided to write and share my moving journey with depression and anxiety in my new, debut book, Teenage Depression Versus Me. #teenagedepressionversusme it annoyed me to see that there wasn’t enough support for teenagers and young adults in the shape of understanding, support and guidance. I was bullied and verbally attacked because of my Mental Health and it did hurt, still now I think about the unnecessary abuse I received for not being the same as the others, I felt alone and isolated myself. It isn’t easy coping with depression and anxiety, so I can relate to this. My book offers a support guide to teenagers and young adults experiencing depression and anxiety and shares the many downs I had during my teenage years, I include my years of being bullied, my attempts of suicide, the isolation I had, the friends I lost because of my Mental Health, the way I changed because of my illnesses and much, much more! If you know somebody who may benefit from Teenage Depression Versus Me, here’s the link to purchase it:

Buy Teenage Depression Versus Me

Educating others on Mental Health should be a top priority for our local councils, schools and education environments, employers shouldn’t be allowed to discriminate against their employees with Mental Health either, but be made to accept them just as much as they do other employees. Schools should be fighting to get Mental Health taught on curriculum all over the country and the government/council should be making this happen; especially as Mental Health, particularly depression is on the rise in young teenagers who are getting little or no support at all.

I strongly urge you to consider what you say to someone experiencing Mental Health, be there for them by all means, but don’t expect any immediate change from your help. It can take years to feel understood and part of reality sometimes, remember those with illnesses never ask for them but instead they are given to us. You didn’t ask to be sick and we didn’t ask for Mental Health, so just remember that when you try to ask someone with the condition to “get better or just change”, it’s not that easy!